Your little 'black' book?
Nobody, at least I
hope not, wakes up one morning and decides to become "easy”. It’s a not
conscience decision, unless your a professional which is a totally different
matter .It's quite easy to go from naive virgin to 'that girl that goes with
anyone '' without even really realizing it. Without really taking in it what you’re
doing, or for that matter being affected by it .It took me roughly six months,
I’ll say that.
I had a friend at university who kept a log her sexual conquests,
impressed by her digital collection I complied my whole paperback version .It
was only then that I really thought,’ wow you've got around a bit girl ‘‘, was
I horribly disappointed in myself? Did I change my ways? Sorry to disappointed
the more chaste but no it didn't in fact I embraced it .You can't change what
you've already done ,there is no erase button ( although like everyone
,sometimes it would be useful ) .I have never once felt bad for sleeping around
,why should I ? Perhaps I mix in promiscuous circles but I can't remember
ever being looked down for my behaviour .It's always been O.K for men to do it
,we know that debate .These days ,or in the last 10 years that I've been
''growing up '' it's been increasing acceptable for girls too .At least
that is to a certain degree .There seems to be a level with girls ,a plateau
you can reach before you've gone too far become a ''shank'' or super
slutty whore .It's O.k. to have a few wild years at uni ,have a few one night
stands & a fuck buddy once but start to really racking up those numbers and
admit it? Not so much.
And for boys? It's pretty much the same as it ever was.
Take for example two acquaintances of mine ,one male and one
female .On different occasions I was informed that they had both had over a 100
sexual partners .I am a liberal kind of girl we've established that ,but my
reactions were anything but.
Man whore - '''wow you've been busy, did you take sittings?! One
in one out? ''
Girl whore -'' I can't believe it?! Who with?! How did she find
them all? Wow that is ridiculous!!'' (Inserts comments out wizards sleeves and
clowns pockets*)
Still now in 2012 it's acceptable for the man to flaunt his sexual
back catalogues (I’m excluding the fact we can probably cut the number in half)
.Brazenly admit to putting it about on such a scale. The girl in question
didn't tell me herself of her triple figure magic number, no it was gossip
passed on from a less than discreet friend of hers. Yes, we’ve come a long way
in equality between the sexes but sexually were still a little prudish about girls,
liking, wanting and going out and having sex when they bloody well want it!
Time to debunk some
myths about so 'whores's and ‘slut’s’.
We do it because were low on self esteem and want to be 'loved' -
This is worst myth going ,anyone out there who has ever had a one night stand
with stranger ,knows that love & affection that are last things present. We
do it because were horny ,the guy is fit and yes in some cases because were
drunk .Were no were different from men ,if we want sex were quite capable of
getting it without falling in love or getting emotional .Most of the time
anyway.
We want to feel attractive - Oh yes
,some drunken chino has decided I'm the one worthy of groping tonight after
several rounds of jagerbombs ,shoot me down I'm clearly Megan Fox this evening!
Do me a favour.
We've got Daddy issues - This
one confuses me no end, what kind of connection is there between paternal love
and lust? The mere idea is pretty disgusting.
I know that personally my ''busiest '' years are behind me and I
sit here with no regrets. Were some bad experiences along the way? ,yes
there were but everything in life teaches us a lesson for future reference
.Even if we need to taught that lesson several times over ! Go out sow your
oats or not ,what ever you want to do don't be constrained by what others think
is right ,we get to live this life only once Embrace ....and be safe .
Xoxo
*should you come across this blog and not be aware of the term
"wizards sleeve”, here is a helpful link to our friends at urban
dictionary http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=wizards+sleeve
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