Friends with benefits .Everyone knows
what this means. Having that guy or girl at your disposal for no strings
attached ‘fun’ .Just two friends having meaningless sex for mutual benefit. It
seems like an easy equation on paper, your friends and your single why not do
each other a favour. At first it seems like an utterly great idea, hey were both single,
were mates how about it? What can possibly go wrong?
Truthfully In practice it can be lot harder than you think.
Firstly choose your partner in crime carefully, how good a friends are you? Could you bear to lose them as a friend should relations go
sour? They might have been one of your best mates for years, but when
emotions and sex get in the way you could be saying goodbye to a perfectly good
friendship for the sake of a quick bunk up. Think closely about what the history
between you is, if there are underlying issues between you .Weather it be baggage
from a former relationship or emotion issues one of you is bringing to the
bedroom. Casual sex isn't the time to be pouring you heart out post coital .In fact don't be naive to think there is a post coital time in these relationships .
Before you even consider starting a sexual relationship
without genuine romantic feelings, be sure to set out the ground rules, who calls who, when
is it even appropriate or how often do you want to hook up ?. It can be hard to lose the preconceptions that are given in
conventional relationships, there is no obligations to text call or even ask you how
your day at work was. When your partner isn’t a close friend you see socially , don’t expect to
see your lover any other time but for sex. If you start to text them sweet
nothings or call them nightly then you’re not in the right kind of relationship.
As
much as we like to think were all super relaxed modern types who can separate love and sex, it might be lot harder
than you think. If one party suddenly decides that they want more out of the
situation than just sex, it can be heartbreaking when they are rejected by the
unwilling party. It is true is biologically true that girls are wired to connect emotion to sex , more than men no matter how much we may deny it . Be clear from the outset that your friendship will never be the
same again once you been their naked nether regions, everything will change
from the moment you slip those pants off.
Ultimately don't go into the
relationship expecting a happy fairytale ending , the chances are that your not Mila Kunis or
Natalie Portman in those terrible movies ,things could
end badly and you have to be prepared to accept the possible consequences . The most important is to have fun ,don't take it too seriously ,for the love of god don't fall in love and of course be safe ;)
Top tips for successful F.W.B ( I didn't say I was successful but I where I went wrong!)
1.) If you’re the girl half, never seem desperate. It's not a boyfriend/girlfriend thing. No inane texting or calling . Keep it simple .
2.) Avoid
friends ex boyfriends / Lovers .It more hassle than it’s worth. Plus sharing is pretty gross.
3.) If you start to develop less than platonic feelings .Confess and move on
,save yourself the possible heartache.
4.) If your not happy and start to feel used
(any more than your are) end the relationship pronto. The relationship should be on equal terms
Happy sexytime !
